The topic of conversation was the process of head-knowledge becoming real at the heart-level. Then she asked me, “How do you know when that change has occurred?”
Unprepared to answer that question, I briefly paused and then gave the first answer that came to mind:
“When I no longer feel the compulsion to preach that particular truth at other people, or to project it like, ‘they need this’.”
I had no idea I was going to say that, but I did, and I needed to hear it.
When it’s real in my heart, what I bring to the conversation is not my point or my argument, but love, empathy, and a truly helpful word.