I was talking with a friend of mine about seeking God in the context of a romantic relationship. In the course of that, he told some of his story about the woman who is now his wife. At some point he said, "we prayed together", and though he was not placing any special emphasis on … Continue reading What You Already Have
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Answers to Prayers
My girlfriend and I were discussing the dynamics of praying for God's direction in our lives, and the changes and growth happening in our lives. One thing she said about her prayer life is how God is changing how her approach to prayer, God is changing what she prays for and how she prays for … Continue reading Answers to Prayers
Someone Who Won’t Lead You Astray
What makes someone a good potential mate? The thought I arrived at recently was, 'someone who won't lead you astray'. The idea is that she is someone who, by engaging together, will cause you to be a truer version of yourself, and conversely, you will cause her to be a truer version of herself. She … Continue reading Someone Who Won’t Lead You Astray
A Path for Miracles
"A voice of one crying out: Prepare the way of the Lord in the wilderness; make a straight highway for our God in the desert. Every valley will be lifted up, and every mountain and hill will be leveled; the uneven ground will become smooth, and the rough places a plain. And the glory of … Continue reading A Path for Miracles
I am the Pharisee
The topic of conversation was the process of head-knowledge becoming real at the heart-level. Then the person I was talking with asked me, “How do you know when that change has occurred?” Unprepared to answer that question, I briefly paused and then gave the first answer that came to mind: “When I no longer feel … Continue reading I am the Pharisee
More Thoughts About Sex
Just brainstorming some practical considerations. - Both of these things are true: 1.) There is way more to life than sex. 2.) Sex is very important. - Just how important it is, especially to a male, particularly to his emotional well-being, is a question that could use some illumination. I say this as a Christian … Continue reading More Thoughts About Sex
Choosing a Name
I don't care if you're starting a business or having a baby, a general rule for naming anything is that simplicity should trump creativity. If people look at your business name and are not sure how to pronounce it, then they are less likely to repeat it. That of course is the opposite of the … Continue reading Choosing a Name
I Could’ve Had a Date Last Night
But I didn't. The conversation stopped just shy of going for the ask. Unlike many times in my past, the predominant reason was not fear. It was there, but it was a little leprechaun instead of a giant. My reasons were just reasons: "I've had a long day and I'm tired." "I need to get … Continue reading I Could’ve Had a Date Last Night
Vulnerability
Got to give credit where credit is due. Not long ago, I met a guy at a church event, and we started talking about writing and blogging, and that's how I landed on his page "Authentic Christian Men" on Facebook. The bulk of this writing originated as commentary that I offered on one of his … Continue reading Vulnerability
Unfulfilled
If I feel alone and unworthy as a single person, it may be as much a product of my internal emotional realities as it is my external relationship status, which is a caution about the possibility of those same feelings persisting even after the relationship status has changed, which of course is a call to … Continue reading Unfulfilled
Andrew K. Banks 